There’s so much pressure in your twenties to know exactly what you want to do and to figure out your life purpose and your passion and yada yada yada.
Every day I see more and more books and articles and PDF’s to download to help you figure out your life. I’m a sucker for it too.
But I think I’ve finally realized that it’s okay to not have it all figured out and to now know what exactly what I want to do. Don’t waste your twenties thinking you’re supposed to have it all together.
At one point, I worked a job that was 100% commission and as much as it pushed me to be my best some days, it was also very difficult when things weren’t so busy. I, like a lot of people, view success in my career as a very high priority in my life.
But I’m slowly realizing as I spend more long days at the office that life isn’t about money or success. Who really cares what your job title is or the highest position you achieve in your career if you’re a slave to your unrelenting job? The definition of success is different for every single person.
Yes, we all need to make a living to pay our bills. But happiness can’t solely be placed on how much money you make or your title at your job. Your happiness should depend on the little things in life. It should be about enjoying time spent with your family and friends.
The bottom line is – it’s okay to feel lost. It’s okay to say “I’m unhappy” or “this isn’t what I want to do.” It’s okay to let it sit, take a step back and reevaluate and remember that it’s just a job.
It’s okay to realize that maybe you don’t want a 9 to 5 and that maybe you want to work a few part time jobs while you figure out what you do want to do. At any point in your twenties, or your life, you can decide that you want to do something else with your life and to change directions. That is okay.
I’ve done a lot of stuff in my life because I thought it was what I was supposed to do or it was the next logical step in life, and I’m sure a lot of other people have too, but it turns out it wasn’t necessarily what I wanted.
I don’t want to sound like I’m giving people a reason to be lazy in their twenties and then think that in their thirties or at some point down the toad, they’re going to magically have it together. A lot of people seem to take away from social media that overnight success is common. My point is that it takes most people some time to figure their lives out.
Your twenties are a time to learn and soak everything up to figure out what you are interested in. Read, explore, go out of your way to meet people who do things you’re interested in.
Just remember that you are living for you. No one else has to live with your life and your job and your decisions. So do what makes you happy, keep exploring and learning and remember to enjoy your life.